Hidden Rage – Eliza Gonzalez

Hidden Rage

Women for so long have had to hide and suppress their rage. To be angry is to be impolite. To be rageful as a woman is disagreeable. It’s controversial and almost always is never taken seriously. While men are applauded and revered for raising their voices on topics that they are passionate about, women are seen as crazy and unstable. While anger in men is seen as decisive or done with purpose the opposite can be said of women when angered. Why is it that when women express such an important emotion they are seen in a negative light? In the article, “How Outdated Notions About Gender and Leadership Are Shaping the 2020 Presidential Race,” the authors state  “Because we expect women to be kind and communal, we sometimes like them less when they’re assertive or forceful. In contrast, we expect men to act like this, so they don’t face the same pushback.” This can be noticed in women that run for any government position. When anger is presented the candidate is told she is uncontrollable and unfit to hold such an important position of power. While men are promoted to have such emotions because if they don’t they would be seen as weak. 

They would be looked at as a woman. 

The worst fear for men, something that keeps them awake at night, is the thought of being compared to a woman. To lack anger is to be feminine and to be feminine to men is the most shameful thing in the world. Men often say that women are too emotional and then go on to complain that as men they are not allowed to show emotions. What many of them forget is that anger is in fact an emotion. A strong and compelling one at that. Many men use anger as a substitute for all and any emotions they feel. While they have had full reign over the emotion women have had no opportunity to make use of it. Anger has been the leading cause of so much change in the world when used for the better. In the 1960s, women of the time used their anger and rage to push forward in their fight for equality. Anger and outrage are such important tools that when used correctly they can change the outcome of any situation.

While all women are taught to shy away from anger, women of color are the most affected when showing even the slightest form of it. Hurtful and harmful stereotypes begin to develop in communities that still exist today. Like the feisty Latina or the angry black woman. Each stereotype demeans the woman’s anger and puts their feelings and emotions on the backburner. They are seen as a joke and something to be wary of. 

It’s important to not only feel all emotions but have them heard by the people around you. Anger and rage are common emotions that all people feel and should be taken seriously no matter what gender one identifies with. 

Abrams, Allison. “The Power and Shame of Women’s Anger.” Psychology Today, Sussex            Publishers, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/nurturing-self-compassion/202002/the-power-and-shame-women-s-anger.

Chemaly, Soraya. “How Women and Minorities Are Claiming Their Right to Rage.” The   Guardian, Guardian News and Media, 11 May 2019, www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/11/women-and-minorities-claiming-right-to-rage.

DeANGELIS, TORI. “When Anger’s A Plus.” Monitor on Psychology, American Psychological              Association, Mar. 2003, www.apa.org/monitor/mar03/whenanger.



2 thoughts on “Hidden Rage – Eliza Gonzalez

  1. Amarah Hinckson (She/her/)

    I really do like your post on anger in regards to both and women. I honestly do feel like men and women should both have the right to feel angry in situations that come about especially if anger is a proper reaction to the situation. Great job !!

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