Gender Equaility

Yanjun Jiang

Historically, it has been believed that women are lower than men in terms of body and intelligence. There has always been a cliche that women should stay at home. They believe that women are born to take care of others, and their legal rights and employment opportunities are much less than those of men. The current law says that women’s rights and interests should be protected and equality between men and women should be guaranteed. Secondly, considering women’s great contribution to society, women’s role should be brought into full play. Although today’s women, go to school and work like men, which seems equal, in essence, men and women are not equal.

Not just America, but the world. From birth, most babies are defined by the doctor’s sentence “boy” or “girl”. Society calls us to play the role of men or women; Women are required to be gentle, beautiful, and self-defense at any time. And men are the same. They should be firm, strong, and full of aggression. Every child is required to present the image that society needs or wants us to present, but what society requires us to present or do must be right? Why should women always be beautiful? Why do men have to be better than women? Obviously, this is the definition left to us by ancient people. But are we in the middle ages or what dynasty? None of them. A new era has come. Why can’t we change the definition of gender? The women’s rights movement in America continues to develop, but we refuse to take another step forward. Instead, we retreat step by step.

In the excerpt from ‘The Feminine Mystique’ by Betty Friedan. Betty utilizes the term “feminine mystique” to describe society’s assumption that women can be satisfied through housework, marriage, and raising children alone. However, the author expounds that middle-class women suffer from harm in playing the role of traditional housewives, so that they can not obtain full human ability and freedom. As Betty said, “Each suburban wife struggled with it alone. As she made the beds, shopped for groceries, matched slipcover material, ate peanut butter sandwiches with her children, chauffeured Cub Scouts, and Brownies, lay beside her husband at night — she was afraid to ask even of herself the silent question — “Is this all?” This makes me deeply feel the decadence and powerlessness of women, especially those who become mothers. They get deeper and deeper in playing the role of mothers. They start to live from losing themselves until they are bound by a complex, busy but meaningless life. They always feel that something is missing. Even if they arrange their own life well, they still can’t find their own direction. They repeat low-skilled work, which devours women’s enthusiasm and stifles their thoughts. Their sense of existence, happiness, and value instantly decline. They are inundated by trivial things every day, which often makes them feel empty. This makes them more confused and struggling, and makes them realize that they are gradually lost in trivial life because the focus of life is always around the family and children. There is no other color in life and nothing else to do except them

I don’t know how many people in America and the world can correctly understand feminism. Women’s rights are easily equated with men’s rights. However, the reason why feminism was called this name was that it was completely patriarchal at that time, and women had no rights at all. Therefore, these oppressed women appeal for equality. What they appeal for is “equality”! Not “privilege”! Real women’s rights are equal rights and human rights. It’s not right, it’s equality! Equality is divided into two kinds: physical equality and spiritual equality. It is difficult to define physical equality. Because most countries in the world give men and women the same rights: they have the right to vote, they can get a job, and go to the same school. However, there are still backward countries that continue the tradition of men being superior to women. Not only backward countries, but also advanced countries have similar hints. For example, in James Cameron’s “Titanic”, when encountering a shipwreck, passengers agree that women go first and men stay last. This is a manifestation of civilization, but I think everyone should have the same right to live in crisis. Of course, this is only my personal understanding.

Everyone has the freedom to choose their own, and we have no right to define a person according to his/her gender. Women can be gentle or strong; Men can be strong or weak. At the same time, they can be heterosexual or homosexual, which are moral. There are still seven kinds of brilliance in the sunlight. Why do people ask or require things in this world that can only show one side? At the same time, I hope that women can wear short skirts without being accused of seducing men; Men can wear feminine clothes without being ridiculed as perverts. I want everyone to understand that women dressed well are not seducing you; Men don’t dance ballet to attract attention. I want a virgin who is worshipped not only because she gave birth to Jesus, a city without gender discrimination, a society in which women can make money to support their families, and men can take care of children without discrimination. Women are not only mothers, wives, and daughters, but also other identities. Both men and women are equal in spirit. Everyone can choose their own appearance instead of being “cosmetic” by social public opinion. The way of thinking of women and men can be the same. Please don’t bind the current idea with the previous truth. Both men and women are victims of gender discrimination, which needs to be changed.

All of the above, we should make them a reality. If men and women, the two largest races in the world, cannot be equal, how can we say racial equality, equality between the rich and the poor, and equality for all? Equality for all does not just mean that we have to do it. This is everyone’s responsibility. Don’t think you have ever been infringed by gender discrimination. We are not part of the world, we are the world. On earth, we are independent individuals. In the universe, the world becomes a point – we are to the world as atoms are to the body. Changing gender discrimination is the responsibility of the world and everyone! Men and women should unite rather than indulge in the world of men or women.

Before we were born, the world was like this, and there was nothing we could do; Before we died, the world was still like this. We were incompetent. I hope everyone can start from themselves and change their sexism.

 

3 thoughts on “Gender Equaility

  1. Estrella Paucar Paredes (She/her)

    Hey Yanjun!

    Your piece is amazing! You did an amazing job expressing the inconsistencies in our society, I love how you encourage others to seek to find their true selves and I think that is very important to do. One section I liked was ” We are not part of the world, we are the world. On earth, we are independent individuals. In the universe, the world becomes a point – we are to the world as atoms are to the body.” I think this is beautiful, you show how we can make a difference if we all put our part to put an end to gender discrimination.

  2. Hilarie Ashton

    Yanjun,

    You have some wonderful ideas here that you express so thoughtfully and with good evidence. Your first paragraph sets things up really comprehensively (I especially appreciate the distinction you make between social and legal treatment of women), and then in your second graf, you give us this amazing phrase: “most babies are defined by the doctor’s sentence.” So true!

    And while you don’t mention Butler’s work, you channel their theories about performance vs. essence really lyrically with this: “Every child is required to present the image that society needs or wants us to present, but what society requires us to present or do must be right?” When you asked, “Why can’t we change the definition of gender?,” I cheered!!

    Your Friedan paragraph is really thoughtful and rich, too. What a great description of the silliness of gender roles and the harm they cause: “They get deeper and deeper in playing the role of mothers. They start to live from losing themselves until they are bound by a complex, busy but meaningless life.”

    I loved this, too: “I want everyone to understand that women dressed well are not seducing you; Men don’t dance ballet to attract attention.” Let’s put that on a t-shirt!

    I can tell you put a lot of thought into this, and it was a pleasure to read. Really well done.

    Take care,
    Prof. A

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